Chemistry and attraction dating
But even online, geography continues to have an influence.
After all, the point of online dating is eventually to meet someone offline – and it costs more time and money to meet someone who lives further away.
They view their partners as more attractive than objective reality – something I’ve called the “love-is-blind bias”. This idea of reciprocity may sound very simple, but it has incredibly important implications for all relationships.
Chat-up lines may sound like a bit of fun, but all romantic relationships are built on reciprocal self-disclosure – the mutual exchange of intimate information with a partner.
Proximity matters because it increases the chances people will interact and come to feel part of the same “social unit”. People perceived to be physically attractive get asked out on dates more often and receive more messages on online dating sites.
They even have sex more often and, apparently, have more orgasms during sex.
Once social interaction takes place, other traits come into their own.
Some time ago, I found myself single again (shock, horror!
) and decided to get back into the world of dating.
Deciding when and how to disclose intimate information to a new partner is an important part of every romantic relationship and can be the difference between an honest, healthy relationship or a closed, stunted one. Giving the impression of dislike is unlikely to spark attraction because it goes against the grain of reciprocity.
We Like What We Know Finally, despite what many people think, opposites very rarely attract.