Dating people with health problems
Someone in the advanced stages of cancer or some other terminal illness would be difficult because it would be so traumatic to get attached to someone who you know is going to die soon. I would also have no problems pursuing a relationship with someone who has an incurable but treatable and manageable illness (hepatitis comes to mind), as long as they take good care of themselves and keeping up with all the appropriate matters.
If you started dating someone and found out right off the bet that a man has some kind of health issue that he will have to live with for the rest of his life (such as diabetes), would you pursue the relationship anyway? I would date someone with a "pre-existing condition," as it were, and I'd stick by someone who developed a condition through no fault of his own while we were together (as long as I loved him, that is).
But if someone doesn't eventually make an effort to be supportive, that might require a bigger conversation.
There are plenty of big conversations you'll probably have when you're dating someone: whether or not you want to get married, if you want to have children, and when you might want to move in together.
But for people who struggle with mental health problems, one of those major conversations might be telling a partner about what they go through, and why they might have "off" days.
Either way, navigating mental health struggles is hard enough on your own, and we all deserve to be with people who can be understanding, even if they can't relate.
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